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The Healing of the Divine Masculine

1/2/2018

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Yin and Yang
There’s been much talk and publicity recently over the plight of women objected to all kinds of domineering, humiliating and abusive behaviour from men.  This situation needs healing for sure,  for both women and men, and to do this we need to enquire deep within the problem.  It’s great to see more attention being brought to empowering the divine feminine. In this article I'd like to bring attention to how the masculine aspect can be healed.  
I’m not talking specifically about men (though this does need to happen).  I’m talking about the masculine aspect of the energy that makes up the universe (yang).  This energy lives within all of us, men and women, and so we can all contribute by healing it within ourselves.  ​
The problem has been that masculine energy has gotten so easily distorted over the centuries.  In it’s pure, aligned form the divine masculine is clear, wilful, passionate, protective, committed and focussed.  However, when it gets distorted it can turn into domination, perversion, and aggression.  This usually comes from some need to control the environment because of a need for a specific outcome.  

So, how can we heal it?

Firstly, we need to recognise that masculine energy in it’s pure form IS divine!  It’s very common, particularly in spiritual circles, to strive for traits such as love, peace, compassion and acceptance.  How often does will power, focus, passion and courage get overlooked!  But these traits are needed too.  They are deeply catalytic.  

If I said the word ‘penetration’ to you now, how would you react?  Tightness, perhaps even nausea?  It’s a word that carries a lot of weight and is loaded with judgement.  But what does penetration really mean?  In the work of self-realisation we must use masculine energy to penetrate into our unconsciousness.  It shines a light in the darkness and encourages us to ‘go deeper’.  Where would we be without this?  I suppose probably in comfortable denial, stuck in a bubble of ‘love and light’ but never able to face any of life’s obstacles. 

Divine Masculine
On a more practical outer level we can use masculine energy to initiate change in our lives.  To take that bold, but necessary step into the unknown.  It is also needed to establish boundaries, asserting what is okay for you and what is not.  This is particularly important for empaths and highly sensitive people.  It can be so easy to lose yourself in others, particularly when you always see their point of view.  The masculine energy protects you from this, establishing a boundary so that you remain clear in who you are.  

Coming into alignment

I have met many women out there (men too) who subtly deny their masculine side, convincing themselves that it is too aggressive to assert themselves instead of simply trusting that what they’re getting is right for them.  I would say there needs to be a recognition of balance here.  Indeed, you draw to you exactly the right circumstances for you to come closer to yourself.  But, there also needs to be an inquiry into why you’ve attracted it.  Does it serve you to be accepting in this circumstance?  Perhaps it does.  Or, perhaps the right action is to stand your ground, asserting that what is happening is not okay.  

I have also met many men (women too) who overuse their masculine side, seeking to control and dominate a situation in an effort to get something from it, even if it’s just an ego boost.  I would say there definitely needs to be an expression of masculine energy when it wants to come through, but in a way that doesn’t seek to gain power over someone else.  Can you stay in your own power without disempowering someone else?  Why would you need to disempower somebody else when you can find all the strength you need inside?  It can be a challenge, especially when it is so ingrained into our psyche.  But it is needed to heal both men and women.  It even comes down to the language we use.  Can we admit we have a problem without needing to change it?  Can we take responsibility for our own emotional pain?  This is where true strength and courage lie.  

I’d love to hear how you feel about what you’ve read here.  Does it push your buttons? What have been your experiences with masculine energy? 

With love, as always.

​Richard
12 Comments
Trish link
21/2/2018 06:47:50 am

Namaste Richard,

I did not feel triggered by your article but I agree whole heartedly with your message! We all have the energies of the DM and DF inside of us and in order to fully love ourselves, it is important to honor, balance, and heal both. I love the way you describe the DM and allow us to see the Divine Masculine in his divinity vs what we have been seeing for so long. Thank you for sharing!

In love and light,
Trish

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Richard
21/2/2018 07:58:04 pm

Hi Trish,

Thank you for your feedback. It means a lot!

Many blessings,
Richard

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Thomas
24/2/2018 05:06:01 pm

Hello Richard, ... thank you for your precious article.

One aspect though pushed a button for me.

You write: "I would say there definitely needs to be an expression of masculine energy when it wants to come through, but in a way that doesn’t seek to gain power over someone else. "

I would like to ask you: What is fundamentally (as you put it) wrong with seeking to gain power over someone else ... if that someone for instance tries to hurt or even kill you?

Best,
Thomas

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Richard
25/2/2018 02:18:00 pm

Hi Thomas,

Wow, great question! Thanks for posting.

The 'power over' that I'm referring to is more of an energetic power over. It's the kind that seeks to make other people small for it's own ends. It's my view that there is simply no need for this kind of use of power. It's not that it's 'wrong' - it's just a use of energy, and one that has been conditioned into us. I would say only to explore the possibility that you can stand your ground and be in your own power, without making someone else small or harming them in the process.

So, what if someone is trying to hurt you? It's a great question and will be very beneficial to explore. If someone is physically hurting you then how can you stand your ground while still inflicting minimum damage to the other person? You will of course need to ensure that the person stops hurting you and you may need to incapacitate them in the process. It could be a 'right action' to do this so as ensure that neither of you gets hurt further - but would you then hit them while they were down? This is where the difference lies, in power over.

What if someone was hurting you in a non-physical way, for example emotional abuse? How will you handle this energy? Will you throw it back, seeking to hurt the other in return? Or will you try to 'disarm' the other without harming them? A great way to do this is by providing a mirror - telling them how they're making you feel. Or asking a question which sparks an inner enquiry. It's easy to feel victimised in these situations, but can you see how much the other person is hurting if they feel the need to hurt you? Showing somebody that you hear and perhaps even understand them, but being very clear that you are not going to make yourself small for them and that their behaviour is not ok - this would be a way to stand in your power without having 'power over' someone else.

I hope that answers your question. Of course, it's just a perspective, not absolute truth so we may all see things a bit differently. I'm grateful for the reflection though.

All the best,
Richard

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patricia
9/4/2018 12:40:04 am

Tears in my eyes. I had to walk away from this article before I could come back in courage and clarity. And I knew I needed to respond. Yes. It is time now to redefine the masculine energy as divine in a new paradigm. I have received the effects of the out of balance male energy - verbal, physical, sexual abuse. I shut down the power and sexual centers in my body from the abuse. And with courage from some source, it drove me to discover my inner journey. Who was always present in each of those situations? (That one hurts still.) What a blessing waits to be revealed when willing to self reflect! Now with all my being, I honor, appreciate, and am grateful for the possibility of newly experiencing the divine masculine and divine feminine blending in balance. Thank you for initiating this discussion. It is so needed. And we are so ready.

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Richard
9/4/2018 08:27:08 am

Hello Patricia,

Thanks so much for stopping by. What a bold statement you make - I admire your courage to go inside and face the pain of what has happened to you. And you're right - even if self-inquiry means we have to confront our fears and trauma, if you can face it with courage and realise that it doesn't define you, there's always a blessing coming your way.

Wishing you well,
Richard

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Patricia
11/4/2018 04:44:38 pm

Thank you for your response. I am so drawn to this discussion to open a new paradigm, particularly as an effect of my experience. I hope you continue this discussion. I will keep looking at your pages to discover the further progression in this. Thank you again.
Prem

Richard
14/4/2018 07:45:41 am

Hi Prem,

That's great. I've been quite busy these last few months and haven't had much time to post articles. However, I shall keep the subject in my field and see if anything comes to me as a result. What sort of thing would you like to explore with regard to this subject?

I may also start a facebook page on the subject so people have a platform to interact. I'll let you know when I've created it.

Best wishes,
Richard

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Patrricia
14/4/2018 03:50:48 pm

My current exploration of this aspect of our human experience is quite personal. I finally got to the experience of rage that I have been holding in my body/mind. I trust the pull to explore something when it triggers an emotional experience inside me. Thus, I have stepped into this conversation because I need to for my healing.

This has been a lifetime of an awakening journey. I've lived 69 years on the planet this time - over a decade of different psychotherapies, 14 years of 12 step programs, 20+ years of spiritual coaching and practice in Raja Yoga and Hatha Yoga, Hakomi Therapy, countless seminars, etc. This the foundation from which I step into this conversation.

Over 20 years ago, as a former elementary education teacher, I saw the suppression of the male experience. I experienced their trauma as the boys acted out. I also saw the conditioning of the female experience. I wasn't as worried about that as the boy's conditioning (Because I have a woman's body? Because i was abused by the out of balance masculine? Because of my programming?)). I left teaching once I saw my role in that "brainwashing". The Raja Yoga paradigm was/is my road map to living. We are spiritual beings having a human experience.

I practice living the experiential distinction between being and the reactive experience in the mental field. It is the relationship. Where am I? In Oneness"? Then all my words and actions will originate from Source - and that includes, as a Samurai Warrior would, kill another, but never in anger or fear. Or am I reactive to something inside me that is not complete and whole? I feel separate from you and can do whatever I want to make me feel better because I feel disconnected from Source, from Oneness, from completeness? So when I finally touched the rage energy inside me, I was terrified. The feeling of such "out of control" experience after all my practice this lifetime of watching, clarity, compassion touched a space of terror. I have no other word to describe it. I felt panic.

I made a vow a long time ago to never do to others what was done to me. I choose not to let that energy be expressed into the mental field, let alone expressed through my body to another human being. We are one, What I experience, we all experience through the mind field. There is no separation. Even though every one of my senses, including the mind, tell me different - that we are separate - I personally Know the difference. That is the lesson of this time of separation on the planet.

Now, at what level do I Know this? When it comes to the expression of the masculine energy in this time of separation, I have held onto this rage at the expression of this wounded, incomplete, traumatic expression of the male through my personal experience. So I am invested in this discussion. I have no answers. I have healing to do. I use my "tool kit" of resources to heal. And in the conversation I step because I can recognize where I have created restriction.

So thank you for stepping into this discussion. It is time to recognize, honor, appreciate and be grateful for this. This is for all of us.


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Richard
15/4/2018 08:48:45 pm

Hi Patricia,

First of all let me say big respect for being able to share your journey here. Thank you

I hear you in what you're saying. Although I have not had the same experiences as you, what connects us is the source of those experiences - like you said, spiritual beings having a human experience. And so the rage you experience is the same rage I experience, only with slightly different clothes.

I would say it's really important to let that rage be expressed, especially if it's been pent up. It's your truth - a primal energy that needs to be heard - change is coming and this is what will take us there.

But, there needs to be a deep exploration of what lies beneath the rage, because this is a real expression of your soul. In going into it you will discover a great aspect of yourself - but you have to go into it with everything in order to unravel the more 'unsavory' aspects of that rage.

I would encourage you to express the rage, knowing that if you do it consciously, it will lead to a greater you. And in the expression feel deeply into what's going on. What's underneath? It could be passion. It could be a focus, a drive to shake things up in this world and change it. How can you express that energy without projecting onto others?

Namaste - I see you
Richard

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Prem Prakash aka Patricia Kretzschmar
16/4/2018 12:43:55 am

Hi! Richard,

Prem Prakash loosely translated from sanskrit means "Love of the Space of Oneness". My "teacher" recognized this as my path and gave me this name. So I have practiced experiencing the distinction of separation vs Oneness. And the experiences couldn't be more distinct. So for me right now, anything that is not Prem Prakash, is coming up from unconsciousness to consciousness to be transformed by the Love and Light. Thus this conversation.

Rage is violent energy. Violence exists in the experience of separation only. It does not exist in the experience of Oneness. Even the etymology can go to sanskrit - ragha - violence. I can only experience rage, violence, when I identify as separate from other. That is a human experience.

What am I raging at? The separation, particularly the old paradigm of male/female expression, because that is the topic that brings up the reaction for me. It was my experience. Well, if I am raging at separation, then I am in separation. I am not in Oneness. I am furious at the beings that created this separation on the planet. AND YET, I also know, experientially, how critically important to consciousness expansion, separation is. We cannot get free of maya unless we experience it and know experientially that it is illusion. To quote Albert Einstein; "We cannot solve a problem with the same mind that created it". Or, "The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over expecting different results." And yet here I am, in separation raging at separation. I just have to look at the world today to see how that experiment is running.

So, what is underneath my rage at the trauma of the past paradigm of the masculine/feminine energy? The 26,000 years of trauma that has gone into the collective consciousness and experiences of humanity - which includes me. And, I have no idea what the divine masculine/divine feminine energy expression would be like. It is yet to be co-created. There are lots of concepts out and about around this expression.

How authentic can I be in this discussion? it seems to me that only authentic, conscious conversations can allow the new expression to come forth. Thus I have stepped into it. I need to keep expanding this awareness of my relationship with this paradigm. Where am I in this moment? Am I experiencing Oneness, Samadhi? Or am I identified in the mind field with separation, the illusion, the past? How do I heal my trauma from the effects of separation? Authenticity? Vulnerability? Openness? Awareness?Love? These seem like qualities to heal any trauma.

Once again, I choose to honor, appreciate, and be grateful for All. It is what I can do in this moment. Let my heart open in this energy.

Namaste




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Richard
17/4/2018 08:42:27 pm

Hi Patricia,

Thanks for contacting me - we'll continue this conversation through email.

Richard

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