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How to Channel your Sadness into Beauty

22/11/2016

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Sadness
Sadness can be truly debilitating sometimes, leaving us feeling withdrawn, life-less and flat.  So how, when we're feeling like this, do we take that sadness and channel it into something beautifully creative?  How do we transcend the sadness and move forward?
We all feel sad sometimes.  Perhaps you're mourning the loss of a loved one, perhaps it's sadness over some of the tragedies that are happening around the world, perhaps you feel stuck and don't know how to move forward.  Or, perhaps you just feel sad for no reason other than it's a sad day. 
Firstly let's explore what sadness really is, as when we realise what is truly at the heart of our sadness, then we are able to channel it positively.

What is Sadness?

The first thing I want to stress about sadness is that it is natural.  It comes to all of us as part of the natural process of life; the ebb and flow that comes with living in a world governed by dualistic principles.  It is impossible to truly know something without also knowing the lack of it.  It may be triggered by something or it may simple wash over us. 
Sadness is caused by our observation that things are not okay.  A feeling that somehow our reality is unaligned, and doesn't always meet up to the beauty and love that we often feel.  It is a playing out of our explorations of our reality, showing us where we may be stuck or attached to people of situations. 

The Truth Behind Sadness

When we look a little deeper into sadness we see that there is one underlying feeling governing the whole experience... love.  What we are experiencing is a temporary perceived loss of connection to that love, because we have lost the object which triggered it within us.  However, when we look deeper, we discover that the love is still there and that our sadness is actually a manifestation of that love.  We feel sad because we care.  We grieve over loss of a loved one because that person was a object in which we could express our love, we feel sadness about world events because we want others to feel love too.  We feel sad when there seems to be no channel for us to express our love, which is our natural creative expression of our uniqueness. 
So how can we use our sadness to fuel our creative expression of our uniqueness (love)?

Honour the Pain

It's very important that we recognise our sadness for what it is, and know that it is a manifestation of our underlying feelings of love.  That way we don't condemn it, push it away or ignore it.  We embrace it as part of our beauty. 
How does the sadness want to express itself?  Depending on who you are, perhaps you will want to cry, curl up into a ball or stare off into space. 

Express the Love

Creative expression of sadness
Once the pain has been honoured and expressed, you can channel this energy into creative expression.  Perhaps you want to play some music, write a song, or a poem, draw a picture or dance.  You may want to do this separately for both the feelings of sadness and love, or you may want to blend the two together, which can be very powerful. 
Finding the real you through it all can be extremely liberating.  You discover that sadness and happiness are really two sides of the same coin - love.  Thus you allow whatever arises, knowing that who you are underneath doesn't change.  Then you express your feelings into the outside world letting those feelings of love, whichever form they may take, ripple out. 
Your expression may also take the form of gestures, particularly when your sadness involves another person.  You may wish to honour a loved one by doing something for them our creating something to remember them by.  Here's a heart warming example of a young father who was dying of Cancer and wrote his son a series of letters to be opened throughout his life: When I'm Gone

Watch for the Reflection

Life is like a mirror.  As we express ourselves into the world around us, thus we get feedback.  This can take the form of reactions from other people - perhaps sharing your sadness, thus connecting through love, or being inspired by your creativity.  If love expresses itself purely, without neediness or blame, then people will feel that and reflect it back to you.  You can also look out for reflections in nature.  Animals express there beauty very well and we can find reflections in them, or even just being warmed by the rays of the sun.

The Benefits

When we take this simple approach to heart we will begin to see amazing benefits:
  • Feeling that all is okay, whether we are happy or sad.  We no longer judge ourselves because we know who we truly are deep down.
  • Increased feelings of being alive - I've often heard people who are going through tough times in life remark that despite feeling rotten, they also feel more alive than they ever have before. See, 'What makes you feel truly alive?'
  • Increasing sense of connection.  Not only do you get to know yourself better, but you may also develop deeper connections to those around you.
Osho quote sadness

A Final Poem

In the spirit of creativity, I've written a short poem on the subject of sadness.  Enjoy!
Today is a sad day,
But that's okay.

I feel my heart beating with sorrow,
And I know that I am beautiful.

For how can beauty not feel sorrow,
to remind us of how openly we love?

I hear a song and I cry,
Tears that make my eyes glisten.

And looking through this shimmering lens,
I know that I am truly alive.

I am alive and I love.


Update: Click here for an awesome but heart-braking video example of channelling sadness into beauty
With love,

Richard

2 Comments
Michelle
25/5/2017 02:21:46 am

Hi Richard. Thank you for touching this subject with such a compassionate heart. I was touched by all of it it but mostly I caught the bit about reflections; those reflecting back to me my unique style of love.
My current grief state doesn't feel very deep and yes I do feel very alive in it, how wonderful! I also sense a Knowing of deeper knowledge to come.
It occurred to me today that it's a privilege to grieve the way I do. With unlimited support, deep understanding and all the time I need. Truly a rare situation in our world where many are simply trying to survive. So I'll enjoy this exploration and see what comes of it.
I often think of Rumi's words in times of sorrow, these appear near the end of his Guesthouse poem:
'...they may be clearing you out for some new delight!'

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Dee Chips
25/10/2017 06:41:47 pm

I found you through the link from one of your articles in the Wake Up World Newsletter. I am writing a book called Beyond Tragedy, Surviving And Learning To Thrive Again" I might want to reference your work or services in the book and wanted to connect more so signed up for your newsletter and visited your site. I did catch some typos on the site and these would ideally need to be corrected for the professional appeal and my own potentially referencing of your work. I do have a facebook page under my name if you do that please friend request me. Also Linkdin. My email is above. Have a beautiful day! Always, Dee Chips Owner/ Manager Transpersonal Publishing, LLC

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