I've heard of few people talking about their destiny recently. It's often with reference to some kind of imagined role that they have yet to play out, which somehow benefits humankind. But is this really what destiny means? Do we have a purpose to fulfill in this life? If so, is this some outer achievement?
Is destiny goal orientated?
If I think back to my psyche at the time, I guess I was a little lost. I was insecure about myself in many ways and this imagined purpose was my way of boosting my ego by imagining that I would do something great with the things that I was good at.
Where did this insecurity come from? For me it was due an attachment to becoming enlightened. Because I wanted to achieve this spiritual 'goal' I was grasping at an aligned expression of my soul (writing for example) and becoming attached to it, imagining that this outer expression of me would come when I attained enlightenment. Essentially I was identifying with the goal, thus creating a disparity between where I was at the time and where I wanted to be.
Moving beyond goal identity
How did I move beyond this? In truth it didn't come from one "Aha!" moment but a series of smaller realisations. Over time, my definition of 'being enlightened' changed as I realised that it's not some outer goal to be attained but rather a way of being in every moment. So, I dropped the notion of 'attaining' anything other than the most aligned expression of me in every moment.
I cannot give you one 'quick fix' answer here, as these realisations are unique to everybody and will come in their own time. They often come from fixed patterns, a lack of self worth that originates from childhood. The only thing I can say is to explore yourself in every moment - become the observer of your thoughts and emotions, and these realisations will come. If you resonate with what I've said, then test it for yourself with absolute honesty, and be patient. Work to transcend any distorted behaviours by accepting them fully and then looking deeper for the aligned expression.
Behind every distorted Ego expression is an aligned truth. Your soul wants to express, there's no running away from that. I still express myself through writings, not in the form of a novel (at the moment) but through my blog. The difference is that it is simply an up-welling of expression - whatever I feel to write about at the time. Thus, there is no attachment to an outcome. Having lots of people read it certainly serves to motivate me to continue - it is a positive feedback loop which shows me that I'm on the right track, but it's not something that I need to fulfill something inside of me. Thus, if I'm moved to go in a different direction I will, without feelings of loss.
Visions of the future
One thing I've come to realise is that time is not linear. All that exists is this moment of now. Past and future do exist, only as reflections of the present. The past happened but it's current existence depends entirely on our current perception of it. Visions of the future will come, but they are based on the present - the current direction I am heading in.
It is important to release attachment to these future visions. By clinging to one possible outcome you are limiting the pure potential of existence. Both life and ourselves are not fixed, but ever changing, flowing processes. So, our future may change depending on what is happening in the present.
Naturally occurring purpose
To me, our purpose occurs naturally through expressing who we are, fully, in every moment, in the most aligned way possible. Destiny, is simply the fulfillment of that purpose - i.e. the ripples you send out into the outside world as a result of that expression. So, if you feel that you're destiny has somehow evaded you in your life, don't worry - by expressing yourself as truly as you can, right here and now, you are already fulfilling it!
For further exploration, check out this lovely article by Nanice Ellis on purpose and the meaning of life.
- With Love,
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