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Being in the moment vs. daydreaming

31/7/2016

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Being in the moment - it seems to be a real 'tag word' especially in mindfulness communities.  But like so many other 'spiritual phrases' there seems to be a multitude of different understandings of what it means.
So, this is my current understanding of 'being in the moment'.  Remember, this is simply my own viewpoint.
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I used to think that to be in the moment meant that whatever you were doing had to be focused on 100%.  And this is true to a degree, but I don't believe it takes the full picture of 'the moment' into account.  It's easy to fall into the trap of judging yourself for being 'away with the fairies'.  I used to do this a lot.  But it started occurring to me, after much effort not to fall into some daydream in the shower, that this is really a judgment of what the moment should be and therefore takes you away from the moment itself.

So , perhaps it's important now to define what the moment actually is...or is it?  Perhaps any definition of the moment narrows it down, except perhaps to say that it is 'pure potential'.
Now we've thought about what the moment is, we can move onto the question, "what is being in the moment?" Well the key word for me here is being.  Going back to the shower example, when I was taking a shower I was feeling the water running down my back, the warmth sending tingling sensations down my spine, listening to the sound of the water droplets hitting the floor, watching the sparkling light refracting through the drops.  Great right?  But then a tune would arise in my head and I would start imagining the components of the tune, and how they contribute to the overall symphony, how I could play the song and any variations...Damn! Right, come on, feel the water, listen it's sound etc...
The question I'm asking is, "is this spontaneous arising of creativity in the mind not the moment?"  What I've found is that I'm most creative when I'm 'away with the fairies'.  And, for me this almost always happens when I'm in the shower or going out for a walk, those classic practice times for expanding your awareness of everything around you.
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This is where we see the difference between 'being and 'doing'.  With 'doing', the is an efforting to be a certain way.  But with 'being' there is an allowing of whatever arises, be it inner or  outer.  This is the foundation for building true, non-judgemental awareness.
Of course you can still use discernment.  There are unnecessary things that can arise in the mind, which take you away from the moment, such as worries about the future (to be clear, planning for the future is not necessarily 'not being in the moment' as really the future and the past blend into the present.  It is still necessary to make appointments for example.  But simply worrying about the future is creating a judgement on how it 'should' go, thus taking you away from the 'pure potential' of the present).
So, to conclude.  The wanderings of the mind are part of the present insofar as they spontaneously arise.  What is important is to stay with them in awareness (this takes a bit of practice) and to use discernment over which thoughts create judgements about the moment and which do not.  Being in the moment is just that.  Simply being.
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Michelle
11/6/2017 10:18:09 pm

So timely for me thank you Richard:)
I often daydream but really never considered it to be 'faerie time' which actually sounds quite productive to me!
Einstein often remarked about how his most productive thinking came at times when his mind wandered. This became his regular practice though some historians refer to it as his meditation I believe he did not qualify as such.
I'm often thinking up my most creative stuff in this state yet somehow I've allowed some old programming to call it unproductive time which, I now see, it's quite the opposite. What a beautiful revelation! So now I feel completely freed up to indulge this most sublime act of creativity.
Your perspective is so refreshing!

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Felix Neal link
18/3/2019 01:46:21 pm

Daydreaming is completely different from being in the moment. Daydreaming allows your mind to fantasize about your future. Also, it allows you to remember a moment in the past. However, being in the moment is all about keeping a focused awareness in the present. You have to be in the moment to dismiss tangent thoughts in your mind. I am not saying that daydreaming is bad. I think it is good to daydream sometimes. But you should not do it, when you want to keep your focus on the present moment entirely.

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